Guardrails for Singles
Suggested Guardrails for SINGLE People:
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1. Just gouge your eyes out with a spoon.
“IF YOUR EYE CAUSES YOU TO STUMBLE, GOUGE IT OUT and THROW IT AWAY. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell.”
Matthew 5 : 29
- this is a joke. Please don't really gouge your eyes out with a spoon. ;)
Okay, for real now....
Our first suggested guardrails for singles are to: apply the marraige guardrails in your relationships with married people. Your job is to establish guardrails that make all married couples feel safe with you in their lives. Don't do anything to cuase a married person to stumble into an inappropriate relationship with you.
Suggested Guardrails for Married People – applied to you:
•Don’t TRAVEL ALONE with a Married Person of the Opposite Sex
•Don’t EAT ALONE with a Married Person of the Opposite Sex
•Don’t CONFIDE IN or COUNSEL WITH a Married Person of the Opposite Sex ALONE
•When You Feel Your Heart or Desire DRIFTING Towards a ‘SPECIFIC’ Married Person – TELL SOMEONE
•Don’t have an INDEPENDENT Relationship with ANY Married Person
Our second suggested guardrail for a single person is: NO SLEEPOVERS with members of the opposite sex. Remember, if you struggle with homosexuality, you will need to apply these same guardrails to people of the same sex.
Simply just decide no sleepovers with my boyfriend/girlfriend. If you grew up with or currently live sith parents who don't care about sex before marraige, your guardrails are going to have to be really strong and really high. Is it a sin to have a sleepover? No. But this quote says it all:
“If I NEVER put myself in a POSITION of being ALONE with someone other than my wife, I WILL NEVER FAIL IN THAT AREA”
Rev. John Stutzman
The third guardrail for a single person is this: Sex is not required for dating. A date does not mean sex.
If you establish guardrails similar to these ones and keep them in your life you will live with less regrets later on. Extreme guardrails now is how you have an extremely amazing marraige. One of the biggest things that fuels intimacy in marraige is exclusivity. When your spouse believes that they are the only one for you, and that begins with having guardrails.
“RUN (flee) FROM sexual sin! No other sin so clearly AFFECTS THE BODY AS THIS ONE DOES. For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body.”
1 Corinthians 6 : 18
“Don’t you REALIZE that your BODY is the TEMPLE of the HOLY SPIRIT, who lives IN you and was given to you by God? YOU DO NOT BELONG TO YOURSELF,”
1 Corinthians 6 : 19
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1. Just gouge your eyes out with a spoon.
“IF YOUR EYE CAUSES YOU TO STUMBLE, GOUGE IT OUT and THROW IT AWAY. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell.”
Matthew 5 : 29
- this is a joke. Please don't really gouge your eyes out with a spoon. ;)
Okay, for real now....
Our first suggested guardrails for singles are to: apply the marraige guardrails in your relationships with married people. Your job is to establish guardrails that make all married couples feel safe with you in their lives. Don't do anything to cuase a married person to stumble into an inappropriate relationship with you.
Suggested Guardrails for Married People – applied to you:
•Don’t TRAVEL ALONE with a Married Person of the Opposite Sex
•Don’t EAT ALONE with a Married Person of the Opposite Sex
•Don’t CONFIDE IN or COUNSEL WITH a Married Person of the Opposite Sex ALONE
•When You Feel Your Heart or Desire DRIFTING Towards a ‘SPECIFIC’ Married Person – TELL SOMEONE
•Don’t have an INDEPENDENT Relationship with ANY Married Person
Our second suggested guardrail for a single person is: NO SLEEPOVERS with members of the opposite sex. Remember, if you struggle with homosexuality, you will need to apply these same guardrails to people of the same sex.
Simply just decide no sleepovers with my boyfriend/girlfriend. If you grew up with or currently live sith parents who don't care about sex before marraige, your guardrails are going to have to be really strong and really high. Is it a sin to have a sleepover? No. But this quote says it all:
“If I NEVER put myself in a POSITION of being ALONE with someone other than my wife, I WILL NEVER FAIL IN THAT AREA”
Rev. John Stutzman
The third guardrail for a single person is this: Sex is not required for dating. A date does not mean sex.
If you establish guardrails similar to these ones and keep them in your life you will live with less regrets later on. Extreme guardrails now is how you have an extremely amazing marraige. One of the biggest things that fuels intimacy in marraige is exclusivity. When your spouse believes that they are the only one for you, and that begins with having guardrails.
“RUN (flee) FROM sexual sin! No other sin so clearly AFFECTS THE BODY AS THIS ONE DOES. For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body.”
1 Corinthians 6 : 18
“Don’t you REALIZE that your BODY is the TEMPLE of the HOLY SPIRIT, who lives IN you and was given to you by God? YOU DO NOT BELONG TO YOURSELF,”
1 Corinthians 6 : 19
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